Marriage – 100 questions to ask a potential mate

Assalam alaikum

Marriage is a very important step in a Muslims life, something that should not be taken lightly at all – so in keeping with Islamic tradition it is important to ‘interview’ your prospective mate – yes it is not a job interview but asking the right questions can help you in deciding if this is the right person for you.  After getting your answers to these questions it is probably a good idea to pray Istikhara prayer (guidance prayer) and ask Allah if this is the person who you are to marry and have a family with.  Inshallah this list will be a benefit to you.  I am only posting the first 20 … please click the link to see the rest.

100 Pre Marital Questions

1. What is your concept of marriage?
2. Have you been married before?
3. Are you married now?
4. What are you expectations of marriage?
5. What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
6. Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.
7. Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.
8. Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?
9. What is the role of religion in your life now?
10. Are you a spiritual person?
11. What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
12. What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?
13. What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?
14. Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?
15. What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?
16. What is the role of the husband?
17. What is the role of the wife?
18. Do you want to practice polygamy?
19. What is your relationship with your family?
20. What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?